Regardless of who ended the relationship, a new relationship can create surprisingly intense emotions for the “replaced” partner. This often leads to complications such as a financial counter-reaction, parental quarrels and a general escalation of disagreements. Curative separation, like the old “trial separation,” involves life for a period of time, with the decision whether or not to end the relationship being postponed to a later date. Unlike unexpected, unstructured separations, healing separation is a functional separation in which you and your partner dedicate yourself to investing in your personal growth. If you can build a better relationship with yourself, it can allow for different and healthier relationships with others. And of course, I talked about the importance of having a temporary separation plan. I`m not advising you to plan two years for your, I`m just saying that there is always hope of saving a marriage after your separation if it lasts longer than the recommended 6 months. Fortunately, the husbands` feelings were the same as mine, so our healing agreement called for us both to remain both sexually and emotionally monogamous. It is not easy to determine the exact timing of your separation. How do you know how long it will take for you to be ready to live together? I have found that the longer the uncertainty persists, the more likely it is that communication will deteriorate and tension will intensify.
Change is difficult for most people and especially when they do not have full control of the outcome. You can reduce the fear and worry that arises for most people during separation by immediately addressing your problems. Don`t encourage your partner`s imagination to migrate into pessimistic scenarios by pulling your heels to begin the solution process. The healing separation agreement allows both partners to give their input and agree on all the things needed to save their marriage and ensure that both partners know what they need to work on. Also discuss how you want to inform your family, friends, and children about your separation. Here too, these are complex issues in which you should seek professional advice and support. Both partners should feel comfortable and confident in the healing process of the separation, so it is important that the option not to consult a lawyer for the duration of the separation (or to initiate other legal proceedings) is included in your separation rules. So it`s possible to have a healthy separation in marriage if divorce isn`t on the cards and, more importantly, is separation healthy for a marriage? (Please note that this article serves informational purposes only and should not be used as a primary or sole guide for the introduction of a therapeutic period of separation.